The foundation of our approach is our proprietary process that is the backbone to every program, community and workshop we offer.
With this approach, the impact you create comes from an integration process that aligns your nourished nervous system and regenerated inner environment with your whole self. Hello, Clarity!
The most important relationship, the relationship to self, is then full of ease, flow and unlimited possibilities which impacts the way you relate to your external environment as a leader.
Heeeyyyy, let's chat! I'll start.My old dating profile post-divorce used to say somethinglike "I am a walking/talking contradiction of myself...and Ilike spicy food." I thought the contradiction part wasa flaw so I put it out there so 'they' knew whatthey were getting into. I thought it was a signal to show that I am well aware that I am 'broken' andsomething is 'wrong' with me. BUT that I also like spicy food and havea sense of humor, so HA! Consider yourself warned!I met some interesting folks, but being totally yourself is confronting. And so once again, I shoved that*ish down. So, no sooner did I stick that freak flag in the ground,kicking and screaming, committed to being FULLY myself(not saying that anyone else cared, but the renegade in mewas having a moment)...and then, I. SHUT. IT. DOWN.Like, whoa. Wait, what??It didn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that I was also grieving. And so, ding-ding-ding! Ring on the self-sabotage bell.Ring. The f*ck. ON.Ugh.And ring, it f*ing did. It wasn't just dating post-divorce and solo motherhood. I had also started a business with a few product lines. So the wild part is that I was actually in a season of totally celebrating all the facets of me and the freedom to tap into the creative energy that had been burning a hole in my soul since I was like, 3? And then, I crashed. It didn't happen all at once. It took its sweet-ass time. So, to keep busy during my complete and utter self destruction, I hustled hard. I worked harder, parented harder, created harder, broke down harder. But I also did "all the right things". I took that time to get therapy, get coaching, reach out for help and solutions on how to fix all of my broken-ness. I spent all of my resources...my time, attention, energy, money & effort onself-improvement, self-development, coping strategies, self-care and morebecause I. WAS. DEDICATED.Until things come to a screeching halt. I'm not talking about rock bottom or the rug getting pulled out from under you. Screeching. F*ing. Halt. For me, my L5 vertebrae was destroyed by a tumor that also caused massive nerve damage, serious autoimmune and metabolic chaos, and a host of physical issues no one seems to have answers for. I was completely sidelined. EVERYTHING flipped upside down and it turns out your childhood adversities and traumas, parental estrangement, efforts, desires, intentions, successes, failures....mean very little (in this context) when your body is failing and can no longer support yourself and your children as a single mom. But I remember the decision that completely changed everything, the slow lead up hit all at once, "this is NOT it, and the rest of it all stops NOW." Everything cleared out of the way and I intuitively knew that the top-down approach had pushed dysfunction deeper and deeper into my body. The anger, betrayal, and abandonment was self-rage over my self-betrayal and self-abandonment. I knew I was NOT going to go back to living life on those terms. Like, ever. And I was ready to face what that meant and what changes and consequences came with my decision. I knew it was going to be messy, and it was. BUT, here I am. I didn't know how yet, but I knew I had to flip the switch to fully support my body on a cellular level. It was a non-negotiable. I had to access a bottom-up approach that allows us to STOP chasing after symptoms to "fix" (behaviors, habits, mindsets, thoughts, feelings, emotions, meanings), fully access our own unique power and emerge deeply nourished as the authentic impact creator we're called to be. Because what was absolutely and abundantly clear to me, more than ever before, was that there was NOTHING wrong with me and I had so much more in me to GIVE. And despite all of my efforts, I had barely made any true impact. But I had certainly felt the expense of being misunderstood. I had lived my entire life believing I was utterly broken with a raging flame of passion burning inside and somewhere deep down I KNEW my life here meant something and I could create impact. And because I related to myself in that way, I related to EVERYTHING else around me that way. So I had tons of evidence of my brokenness! And tons of evidence of deep appreciation and gratitude. Like I said at the very beginning....I am a walking/talking contradiction. So as it turned out, the same efforts I was using to desperately try to "fix" everything wrong with me was the same thing causing deep, physical dysfunction to the point of destroying some major body systems. The good news is that the answers to so much of this existed in studies and research and were easily accessible. The challenge was to distill it down to an approach that could be easily understood and simple to implement so that I could regain momentum without adding more injury to my already fragile (like flower AND like bomb!) system. I learned quickly that there is no gap between where we are and where we want to be. It's an illusion. It's a story, a conversation, and something we love to believe in because that's how we are perfectly wired. The harder we try to manipulate it, overcome it, the more lost we get and the more misunderstood we feel. Sure, we may find some clarity and relief in some areas along the way, but our brains and our wiring are tools of perfection that do NOT require the heavy lifting we've been lead to believe. And in that perfectly hardwired state, we rebound. We're supposed to. It's not beliefs, limitations and mindset. (symptoms, symptoms, symptoms...) It's physics. It just is! You gotta get in there and build from the bottom-up, not chase from the top-down. THAT'S where EASE is. I am not saying easy, I'm saying ease vs. dis-ease. I also learned that the true gritty work happened when all the spectators left. Integrating with ourselves and the systems we live with (family system, social, community, our livelihood) can take its toll. That's when we need the most ease and support. It's the after, after, after, after party. And that's when you're left naked with your truth. And it's f*ing beautiful! I learned accountability feels different than responsibility. EASE feels different than resilience. And appreciation feels different than gratitude. The difference was allowing the experience of ownership rather than something that happens as a result of constantly overcoming ourselves, defending ourselves, explaining ourselves, justifying ourselves. And I learned I am NOT alone in this. Do you feel this? If you're not getting the outcomeyou intended, something is mucked up with the connection to self, the integration of yourconnection to self with the present moment, or both. Maybe it's time to turn sh*t upside down. My commitment to this approach started out as a mission to support others through similar side-lining medical experiences, but now I've dedicated my life's work to researching and studying the bodies of work of people much smarter and much more qualified than me, distilling it down into an approach that is easy to implement and holds significant structural integrity, and put it to the test by integrating into my every day life. I took my own life and everything in it, all of my traumas, all of my adversities and positive experiences, my mindsets and beliefs, resilience and weakness...threw it into this approach and tested, broke, rebuilt, re-tested, etc. over and over again. Slowly but surely self-trust appeared and uncertainty was no longer a minefield. When I was able to find safety in my body, in the present moment, and was able to live from that place...that's when my life truly began. Now, I walk this walk every day. We need you showing up & fully expressing yourself in your area(s) of impact, now more than ever. I know from this experience, combined with the 4 decades of living in a state of chaos while searching for healing, that reconnecting to yourself on this level is a HUGE experience in expansion. Going through it can leave us feeling lonely, isolated and misunderstood. It can be a painful and grueling grieving experience. But that doesn't change the sense of urgency you feel for this level expansion and full self-accountability and self-leadership.I also know that my greatest impact is made by being fully present with compassion for other self-leaders as they emerge the deeply nourished, radically aligned, authentic impact creators they are called to be. So I'm here to offer you a support system I built from years and years of validated research and studies from some pretty rad smarties that made my transformation possible. And I'm here to have fun together while we get sh*t done! Love,Erin I was also completely overwhelmed. But I had been committed to dealingwith all of this since I was, again, around 3? I know that sounds impossible for a 3year old to know anything about anything, but there were events happening around me...and so, I knew I had my work cut out for me. I knew. BUT let's be crystal clear, it doesn't have to be some deep rooted sh*t, it can be something like a teacher telling you to stop coloring the sky purple and to "do it right". That can be enough to send us on a trajectory we have no idea we are on. The humiliation and devastation in that alone can cause some true injury. NO, coloring the sky purple is not even comparable to being in the center of a war, no one said it was. But it's NOT as simple as what happens around you. It's physics. It lives in the structural integrity of ourselves. It's what happens INSIDE you when things are happening around you. And it's about where you are at inside before sh*t even gets dumped on you. Lifetimes and lifetimes of stored data lives in our DNA and we aren't here long enough physically to unwind it all and discern, or judge, if our stress responses are warranted or not. So, some of these things we have NO idea about. We have no memory to pull up and refer to. Some of these things we DO have strong memories about and we pull them up and then say, "it could be worse". Because it can be worse! Obviously! But what the hell good does THAT do anyone? Does THAT serve others who did have it worse? How can those who had it worse find support in others who didn't but are still dealing with some invisible internal injury they don't even understand? So do we wait for total system breakdown and disease to say ENOUGH. To FEEL enough? Until then, sit down and take your licks. There are beautiful souls here and now that with some understanding and support of where they are at, wherever they are, and however they arrived there...can make incredible impact on humanity. But here we are judging and telling them to sit down. I have been through my fair share of sh*t and struggled with it because "it could always be worse". And I don't want anyone to ever feel so misunderstood that they cancel their own impact making capabilities when we need them the most. Now, that is not to say there is no difference in our internal injuries and traumas. There clearly is. Please know I understand that and am not here to argue that.Either way! I'm here to help! This kindof transformation isn't easy, but it canbe fun!confronting is goodsafe, grounded, belongdon't go where you are 'accepted'. BE where you are, BE where you belong. OR, there is so much transitioning happeningmaybe you are overwhelmed at where toeven begin. Either way! I'm here to help! This kindof transformation isn't easy, but it canbe fun! You decided a long time ago to be committed to your growth and to your desire to expand and be the best version of yourselfpossible. You want your life to matter and you wantthe places you spend your time and energy (where you create impact) to mean something. You are self-aware and hold deep value for how precious life is, and how relatively short this experience actually is. You're here for it and you want the most of it! Which also means you want to conserve your precious resources as much as humanly possible to BE here for it.Here's the thing, we want to lead ourselves and our people towards creating a positive impact. But also, we're exhausted. Not just exhausted. Our world demands responsibility, resilience and gratitude. And our participation in it results in our internal systems operating at various levels of absolute dysfunction.Our society chronically reinforces finding our pain and kicking it down the road until we beg for an outside solution or remedy. There's an app for everything at our fingertips, yet chronic stress, burnout and health crises are the norm. Many of us are just trying to stay true to our values and our vision, 'keep showing up' and cope the best we can. Sure, we're grateful, resilient and responsible. But at what cost? Are we truly authentically aligned self-leaders? Probably not if we are exhausted, burnt out and chronically stressed in the process. Can we seriously expect those we impact to trust us when they can sense we don't even fully trust ourselves? I'm NOT talking about perfection. I'm talking about self-trust. That deep connection to your true authentic self, radically integrated with this present moment. THAT level of self-trust. (Read that again!) Radically? Yes. When your true authentic self is connected with this present moment and FULLY integrated with the mind, heart, body, life force and creative power of possibilities. This is true expansion. Radical expansion. Which is the power behind authentic impact. Our roles and identities are transitioning at such rapid speeds, and our systems are tapped out. Gone are the days of command and control leadership, including self-leadership. Everything beneath the surface has become totally exposed.There's not a manipulative overnight solution. But there is a beautiful and fulfilling lived experience. Everyone's expansion is unique. No one can sell it to you or teach it to you. But what they can sell you is the illusion of a gap. That invisible space between where you are and where you want to be. Once they sell you on that illusion, they can sell you the solution. The solutions are typically pre-packaged, top-down approaches to deal with all that ails you. And they are usually so well intended and masterfully crafted by someone who has experienced being stuck in the same gap you feel you're in, made it to the other side where you want to be, and is inspired and heart driven to be of service and support you through the process of addressing your symptoms, unpacking thoughts/feelings/emotions under the symptoms, rewiring beliefs, and implementing strategies and solutions to get you there. That's where I was! A full believer in the illusion of the gap. And I spent the better part of my four and a half decades chasing down my symptoms, finding solutions and coping strategies, and even finding some relief and clarity in areas. Inevitably, there were rebounds. More conditions and circumstances arise, more symptoms come to light, more digging and analyzing ensues...more precious resources spent, and more precious possibilities lost.